Q: So tell me about yourself, Mistress Sarah??
A: Haha, that sounds like a job interview question. I’m a 32-year-old Dominant Female, living in Denver. I’m college educated and a lifestyle Domme, and have been practicing my craft for the past eight or nine years.
Q: How long have you been on NiteFlirt?
A: When I first signed up on NiteFlirt, I didn’t do anything with it. My account just sort of sat there for the longest time. It wasn’t until about late 2007 or 2008-ish that I started taking calls and doing distance training. I was in school at the time and I loved the flexibility- and money- that the NiteFlirt platform provided.
Q: What made you decide to do NiteFlirt?
A: One of my dearest friends highly recommended NiteFlirt. She’s been on it from the very beginning. Hands down it’s one of the best- if not the best- platform out there. I chose NiteFlirt because I really feel that distance training and phone domination offer a level of control and interaction that real-time sessions can’t come close to. Don’t get me wrong, nothing beats real-time. But with distance training, I can basically control every aspect of a client’s life and make him serve me in little ways throughout the day.
Q: Are you married??
A: No, I’m single.
Q: Wow, I think you’d have lots of offers…
A: Well, I’ve never lacked for male attention. It’s so silly and transparent the way vanilla guys fall all over themselves trying to impress me. Silly lines. Silly gestures, lol. If you really want to impress me, take 50 lashes of my single tail or 50 strokes from my cane.
Anymore, a traditional vanilla type of relationship just seems pretty boring. Even on a vanilla date, I’m usually thinking, “Oh my god, must we really go through this charade?? Can’t we just skip the preliminaries, go back to my place, and do something totally perverse and kinky?” Just last week this guy asked me out, and over dinner he’s rambling on and on and on, trying to impress me with his accomplishments. I’m sitting there rolling my eyes because he is the worst lair in the world. And I’m thinking, “The only reason I agreed to go out with you in the first place is because you have a cute ass that I would love to fuck.”
Q: So, in a sense, being a Domme has spoiled it for you?
A: No, quite the contrary, being a Domme has opened my eyes and freed me from the drudge of the traditional. Being a Domme really isn’t what you are, it’s who you are. It’s not a role. There is no way I could be in a traditional marriage or relationship and remain true to who I am. But a female led relationship or marriage, I’m totally up for that.
Q: What are you pet peeves when it comes to play?
A: I’m big on communication, so it’s always annoying when a client won’t tell me what he’s into. He will say something like, “Whatever you’re into, Mistress.” Then I’ll tell him how I want to make him suck cock for me, and he’ll reply, “There’s no way I could do that Mistress.” If you don’t want to suck cock, fine. Then fucking tell me what your interests are when I ask you.
Another thing that gets on my nerves when a client that refuses to invest even the smallest sum of money in his kink- like a someone that wants to be feminized, but refuses to even buy a $5 pair of panties. Just last week a guy bought my fuck-slut training program and was all butt hurt- not in a good way, mind you- because the training required him to have a dildo, which he didn’t have and didn’t want to buy. Seriously, if you’re not willing to spend $30 on a dildo, there’s no hope for you.
But, by far, my biggest pet peeve is when a client or potential client fails to respect my boundaries. A perfect example is the PayPal thing. I’ll get an email on NiteFlirt from a sub asking if he can pay via PayPal. I’ll reply no, and explain that it’s against the rules. Some will respect my position on it, while many others will insist on pressing the issue. “Please, Mistress. Pretty please, Mistress. You could make so much more money.” I don’t waste my time on this sort of moron. I block and spend my time on those more worthy.
Q: What’s the biggest misconception people have about you?
A: Hmm, that’s a good question. I’m not really sure. But if I had to venture a guess, as for as Sarah the Domme is concerned, I would say most would think I’m cruel, cold, and indifferent. Don’t get me wrong, I am certainly those things, but I’m also caring, nurturing, and attentive, especially when it comes to kink time.
Q: What do you like to do in your spare time, when you’re not working or taking calls?
A: I enjoy spending time with friends, shopping, clubbing, attending fetish parties. I’m like many of my clients in that kink is a huge part of my life and pretty much dominates a large amount of my free time.
Q: Are you a sadist?
A: Yes, I am to a degree. I get an enormous pleasure inflicting pain and torment. I love a pain slut when I can find one. It’s quite a rush when someone turns their body over to you, to do with it anything you want.
Q: What is your schedule on NiteFlirt? Do you have set hours?
A: Right now, I’m strictly part time. I do offer phone sessions sporadically, but don’t have set hours of availability. That is soon going to change. After graduating college with a degree in finance, I decided to try my hand at corporate life, which I hate by the way, so I’m planning on leaving!
Q: What do you hate about corporate life?
A: So many things. I’m used to being in control, being my own boss, and doing something that I’m passionate about. I’m passionate about kink. I’m not passionate about basically being a paper pusher. Another thing I’m disenchanted with are the idiot people I have to deal with. You basically look around and think, how the fuck did this person ever get the position that he has? He is the biggest moron in the world, completely incompetent. At my place of employment, half of the men in positions of power would be the same type that would be totally owned by me and do the dirtiest, sluttiest things here on NiteFlirt for me, lol.
Q: What was your first experience as a Domme or when did you realize you were dominant?
A: For me, it was in the 8th grade. I used to hang around this total bad ass chick named Vera. She was truly a humiliatrix way ahead of her time. Anyway, one day in class we had a substitute teacher and you know that everybody goes wild and misbehaves when there’s a substitute, right. So there’s this shy timid boy in our class that pretty much kept to himself, a total nerd. Vera decides that she wants to play with him. He’s totally intimidated by her. So she and I start fucking with him and it ends up with us wrestling him to the floor and putting lipstick and makeup on him. Haha, so forced sissy, right. Although he pretended to resist, it was half-hearted at best. You could tell that he loved it by the stiffy in his pants. I loved it too. The feeling of taking control was intoxicating to me. I cannot begin to describe how powerful I felt humiliating this boy in front of everyone. From that point on, my dominant nature seemed to flourish, which led me to experimenting in my sexual life and working as a Dominatrix some years later.
Q: What is the biggest misconception about the phone sex/domination profession?
A: The biggest misconception, in my opinion, is that it’s easy work and easy money. It’s not. Of course, the money is good, but you bust your ass for it. Every so often you see an article online about someone making $50,000 as a phone sex operator, and low and behold, you get an influx of new flirts who think they can put up a listing with a tiny bit of text and the calls will come rolling in. It doesn’t work that way. As with anything, it takes lots and lots of hard work. The successful flirts I know are constantly learning, blogging, creating content, promoting themselves, interacting with clients, redesigning listings, building websites, etc.
Q: I read on a social media post somewhere that a new Mistress was looking for slaves to punish as a way to take out her frustrations with her boyfriend cheating on her.
A: At first glance, this seems like a so-called Mistress who doesn’t really understand the dynamics of power exchange and BDSM. Anyone can put on a fetish outfit, call themselves a Domme and beat the shit out of someone. That doesn’t make them a Domme or a Mistress. A real Domme believes in safe, sane, and consensual play. A real Domme feeds off of her sub and relishes that power exchange.
Q: Do you accept novices?
A: Absolutely! I love being someone’s first Mistress. I love exploring with them and bringing their submission and deep dark desires out to the forefront. Besides, a novice is someone with an unblemished blank slate, so to speak, that I can train and mold to my exact liking. *evil grin*
Q: What is your opinion of the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon?
A: While it was widely popular, I haven’t seen the movie. But generally speaking, 50 Shades helped to normalize alternative lifestyles and sexual desires. Anytime there is a mainstreaming and demystifying of BDSM, it’s a good thing in my opinion. I think it made a whole bunch of people sit back and go, holy shit I have those same desires, I’m not all that weird after all.
Q: What types of clients do you have?
A: In my opinion, I have some of the most loyal and devoted clients imaginable. They come from all walks of life, from the high powered executive to the lowly minimum wage worker. They are young and old. And they all have one thing in common- to be taken to that place I like to call slut-space, where they thrive of submitting to a powerful and demanding woman who makes them do dirty slutty things.
Q: Do you ever have a caller feel too shy or embarrassed about their fantasies and sexual desires, and what do you say to them?
A: All the time. It’s amazing how many guys out there are embarrassed that they like to wear panties and eat their cum. My advice is that you have one life to live and that’s it. Do you really want to look back and regret all the fun you could have had? That makes absolutely no sense to me. You’re a faceless caller on the other end of the telephone or email. Embrace your desires. Explore them. Lay aside your inhibitions.
Q: What is your favorite kink and why?
A: By far my favorite kink is making guys eat their own cum. What I like most about it is the humiliation factor. It’s one thing to be humiliated when you’re sexually aroused, anticipating an orgasm. It’s a completely different thing to endure the humiliation when your sexual arousal is at it’s lowest. So I view a guy eating his cum for me as the ultimate act of devotion in many ways. I love turning men into cum eating sluts!!
Q: What other sessions or activities do you enjoy?
A: I enjoy the traditional facets of BDSM such as pain games, CBT, corporal punishment, etc. But by far, my biggest enjoyment is slut training men. I use slut training as a blanket term. I’m sure you’ve seen a porno where the female just absolutely thrives on being used as a slut, being humiliated, etc. That’s what I like to subject my clients to, whether it be fucking them with my strapon, face slapping, spitting, making them suck cock pimping them out as cock sucking sissy sluts, making them eat cum, etc. Whatever I have to do to thoroughly use them and make them feel dirty and slutty.
Q: I see blackmail on your listings and website. Is that also one of your favorites?
A: Yes it is. Submitting to blackmail involves the submissive giving up the inherent control he has in D/s relationship. I love having that complete power over someone. While a blackmail fetish often linked to financial domination, my approach is somewhat different. I like blackmailing submissives as a way of making them do dirty, slutty stuff for me. For some, it’s the only way they will ever eat their own cum or suck cock. I love the rush and the mental anguish a submissive feels when he realizes there is no way out- that he has to obey and do exactly as I say because the consequences of refusal and disobedience are too great.
Q: I heard one Domme say that she sometimes feels like a therapist with some of her clients. Do you ever feel that way?
A: With some of my clients, yes absolutely. There are usually two kinds. The first are those that have issues or hang ups about their fetishes and sexual desires. It could range from having the overwhelming desire to wear panties to sucking cock or whatever. These types are conflicted by their desire and also by the taboo factor of it. I help them realize that it’s okay to wear panties and healthy to indulge your sexual fantasies. The other type are men who need a strong female to manage and oversee their lives. The need the structure I provide to be productive and accomplish their goals in life.
Q: What are a couple things submissives can do to please you the most?
A: By far, the most important thing a submissive can do to please me is by displaying obedience. When approaching me, a submissive should leave his dignity at the door and be prepared to be humiliated, used, and trained for my amusement. He should be prepared to follow directions and strive to please me.
Q: Where can submissives find you?
A: They can visit my NiteFlirt profile at https://www.niteflirt.com/CruelMistressSarah
And also my website and blog at http://cruelsarah.com/humiliation-blog/